You’ve probably seen on a meme somewhere that you must never stop dating your spouse. How can you successfully do that when your partner has different interests than you? If you’ve ever wondered how to deal when your partner likes different types of date nights, then you do then you’re in the right place. You like to go out to a nice dinner followed by a movie, and he wants to do extreme sports on every date night.
This starts to draw a wedge between you two because you realize that no matter what you both decide to do, one person will always be unhappy. This shouldn’t be the case and is mostly the case when two people refuse to see that it’s not about what they want. Rather the focus should be on how they can serve their partner and experience something together.
In order to keep the peace, couples have to compromise. This means knowing how to deal with not always getting your way. You and your spouse are not always going to like the same things, but what you should focus on instead is how whatever you both decide on, you get to experience it together.
Luke 10:27- and he replied, “you should love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and with all your strength, and with all your mind; And your neighbor as yourself.You and your spouse are not always going to like the same things, but what you should focus on instead is how whatever you both decide on, you get to experience it together. Click To Tweet
You have to love your spouse as yourself and keep in mind that their happiness is just as important as your happiness and vice versa.
Try to make a game out of Date Night
My fiance’ and I play rock paper scissors all the time when we can’t come to an agreement on something. Sometimes I win, and other times I lose, but every time we played, we had fun. Fun works for us and ranks high on our level of priority. Many times we’ve admitted to each other that we don’t care what we do or where we go so long as we have fun.
Use Date Night as an opportunity to learn more about each other.
While we like to spend time together, we also have different interests. For instance, I’m really into personal development and give most of my time to that. My fiance’ likes playing video games to unwind and gives most of his time to that. We’re both into personal development and video games, but we spend our downtime different most times. I don’t get it, but instead of judging or condemning, I try to learn more about my husband to be’s interest.
I sit in our den, aside from him as he plays. He likes the company. I ask questions for understanding. He does the same with me and my interest. We listen, and we learn from one another, and that’s how you deal when your spouse likes different types of date nights than you do. You learn how to compromise and not to feel the need to make everything about yourself. Trust me, you don’t want to end up like that couple in the Netflix Movie The Marriage Story —-> Check out my review here
Take yourself out on solo Date Nights or invite a friend out from time to time.
Learning how to deal takes some time, so kick your patience into high gear. With the help of prayer, continue doing the things you love to do even if it means spending some time away from your spouse. Invite a friend out who likes to do the same things you do. I don’t know how many times one of my girlfriends invited me to an event or activity because their husband didn’t like to do those things, but I happen to. Their spouse was perfectly fine with missing out on those activities, and everyone was happy.
If you’re looking for Fresh Date Night ideas, Fridaywereinlove.com posted a cool blog post giving their readers 52 Date Night Ideas to try out. There were some pretty diverse ideas on there I recommend you click the link and check them out too! All in all, My ultimate advice would be to find something that you both enjoy, even if it means trying something new. Often times, we get stuck in our ways when there is a multitude of new things to try and get into. What suggestions do you have for dealing with a spouse who likes different types of dates then you? Let me know below in the comments.
Remember Marriage is a journey and everything can’t happen overnight.